{"id":5655,"date":"2015-10-12T23:05:39","date_gmt":"2015-10-13T04:05:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sites.dwrl.utexas.edu\/countrymusic\/?page_id=5655"},"modified":"2015-10-12T23:05:39","modified_gmt":"2015-10-13T04:05:39","slug":"bro-country-is-killing-romance-heres-the-solution","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/sites.dwrl.utexas.edu\/countrymusic\/the-history\/bro-country-is-killing-romance-heres-the-solution\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;Bro Country&#8221; Is Killing Romance, Here&#8217;s The Solution"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Recently the element of romance in a relationship has fallen under attack. Now, with apps like bumble and tinder, a potential hookup is a mere finger-swipe away. The college setting is probably the worst with its \u201chookup\u201d culture. Recent country music artists have started to target people of this age range because artists are realizing the relevance it has for listeners and fans. \u201cBro-country\u201d has dominated the charts recently and has made a huge impact on society as a whole. But honestly, the whole culture is a mess. There are many country artists, recently and going back to more classic country, that have songs that incorporate the romance that a relationship needs.<\/p>\n<p>As college students, we live in a culture where a \u201crelationship\u201d is based off of hooking up. What exactly is hooking up though? According to an <a href=\"http:\/\/www.apa.org\/monitor\/2013\/02\/ce-corner.aspx\">article written by the American Psychological Association<\/a>, a hookup is &#8220;a brief uncommitted sexual encounters between individuals who are not romantic partners or dating each other.&#8221; College students like me and you are suffering with this lifestyle in the worst way just because of how prevalent it is. According to a <a href=\"http:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/molly-sprayregen\/learning-to-date-romance-millenial_b_6787500.html\">Huffington Post<\/a> article written by Molly Sprayregan, there are six basic steps that the average college student goes through:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Become friends<\/li>\n<li>Begin an alcohol-assisted hook-up routine<\/li>\n<li>Deny that they have any real feelings for one another<\/li>\n<li>Reluctantly admit they have feelings for one another<\/li>\n<li>Go on real dates<\/li>\n<li>Still refuse to call it a relationship<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/media.giphy.com\/media\/cZ5asnqaatD7W\/giphy.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"133\" height=\"149\" \/>There are many country songs out there that incorporate the steps on that list. One of the worst offenders is Luke Bryan, and recently he <a href=\"http:\/\/www.musictimes.com\/articles\/44473\/20150731\/luke-bryan-kill-lights-single-tinder-new-album-video.htm\">partnered with the app Tinder<\/a> to promote his latest song \u201cKill the Lights.\u201d In order to get access to his new single, Luke Bryan fans must be Tinder users. Bryan partnering with Tinder is almost a clich\u00e9 simply because both promote the easy hookup lifestyle. What is scary about that is Bryan\u2019s younger fans, sometimes even kids that are 10 years old, are getting on the app and starting to use it just so they can have access to his new song. In my opinion, the app is a bit too PG-13. The app&#8217;s purpose is to connect singles with a mere swipe of the finger, and encouraging kids to be on the app? Not a good idea, Luke.<\/p>\n<p>The first song I want to look at is Luke Bryan\u2019s \u201cCountry Girl (Shake It For Me.)\u201d Luke Bryan seems to be the lead advocate for meaningless love, and his fans are crazy about it. While, I admit, \u201cCountry Girl (Shake It For Me)\u201d\u00a0is undeniably catchy, the message is all about his objectification of women. (If you don&#8217;t believe me, just take a look at about 3:15 and beyond in Bryans music video below&#8230;) \u00a0If we as a culture keep listening to and supporting songs like this, there is no way romance will make a come back.<\/p>\n<p><iframe title=\"Luke Bryan - Country Girl (Shake It For Me) (Official Music Video)\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/7HX4SfnVlP4?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Another song heavy on objectification of women and getting a girl to go home with a guy is Cole Swindell\u2019s song \u201cLet Me See Ya Girl.\u201d The whole song is about watching a girl dance at a bar and wanting her to \u201cleave her friends\u201d behind and go with the guy so he can \u201csee [her] do it in the bed of [his] truck.\u201d He doesn\u2019t even know this girl! He is just into her dance moves.<\/p>\n<p><iframe title=\"Cole Swindell - Let Me See Ya Girl [Official Video]\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/EQY87ZICa9E?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>In 2008, Kenny Chesney recorded the song \u201cTen With a Two.\u201d Even though it\u00a0was originally a Willie Nelson song from 1990, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.songfacts.com\/detail.php?id=13350\">Chesney explained<\/a>\u00a0that the message of the song was extremely relatable to his own college experience. The song is about going with someone who, at night when you are drunk, you think is a \u201c10\u201d on the scale of \u201chotness\u201d but ends up being a \u201c2\u201d when you wake up the next morning.<\/p>\n<p><iframe title=\"Kenny Chesney- Ten with a Two\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/8KWLMNHoco8?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Recently though, Kenny Chesney has spoken out about songs like Luke Bryan\u2019s, Cole Swindell\u2019s and even some of his own music. In an<a href=\"http:\/\/tasteofcountry.com\/kenny-chesney-billboard-bro-country\/\"> article on tasteofcountry.com<\/a>, Chesney reflects on \u201cbro-country\u201d and how it is doing so well on country radio, but now he is speaking out against it. \u201cOver the last several years, it seems like anytime anyone sings about a woman, she\u2019s in cutoff jeans, drinking and on a tailgate\u2014they objectify the hell out of them. Twenty years ago, I might have written a song like that\u2014I probably did. But I\u2019m at the point where I want to say something different about women.\u201d Now Chesney focuses on a different message that other artists sing about that are equally as successful.<\/p>\n<p>Girls, if you\u2019re anything like me, you have dreamt of meeting the perfect guy and having him sweep you off your feet, having a huge wedding, starting a family, and growing old with him ever since you were a little girl. It\u2019s a magical idea. And so many country songs fufil the idea of romance that I picture. I sometimes wish that I wasn\u2019t such a sucker for a good romance story, but sadly that is what I am into and it makes this culture we live in so frustrating to put up with.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone\" src=\"https:\/\/media.giphy.com\/media\/GPzb7QqmYMHm0\/giphy.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"250\" height=\"141\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Taylor Swift\u2019s \u201cLove Story\u201d <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=8xg3vE8Ie_E\">https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=8xg3vE8Ie_E<\/a> would accurately sum up all that I could imagine in meeting Mr. Perfect. And when you are 9 years old it all seems as magical as Swift puts it. The idea of having the perfect version of the classic Romeo and Juliet story where everyone lives happily ever after is, of course, every girls dream. \u201cYou\u2019ll be the prince and I\u2019ll be the princess it\u2019s a love story baby just say yes\u2026\u201d I wish it was that simple.<\/p>\n<p><iframe title=\"Taylor Swift - Love Story\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/8xg3vE8Ie_E?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Even though the idea of a fairy tale is not realistic when looking at it from the perspective of a young adult, I do think the romance in a fairy tale is something to cling to. The closest I ever get to a fairy tale is when a guy offers to buy me a drink downtown then him asking \u201cwanna get outta hear? I\u2019ll pay for the uber.\u201d So dreamy!<\/p>\n<p>I cannot, however, discredit the entire male population. There are obviously guys out there who have an appreciation for the same kind of relationship that I do. Buck Owens\u2019 song \u201cMy Heart Skips a Beat\u201d is a great example of a guy getting excited about a relationship. \u201cWell, I did a double take the day I met you, my heart turned a flip as I stood next to you, and I knew right there I never could forget you, for you are my every dream come true.\u201d I love that when Owens reminisces on the moment he met his girl and it still makes his heart skip a beat. Most people in my realm of life can&#8217;t even remember the moment they met someone because they were probably too drunk to be able to. I can&#8217;t tell you how many guys I have had to meet 5 or 6 times for them to finally remember who I was simply because every time I met them they were too drunk to know what was going on.<\/p>\n<p><iframe title=\"Buck Owens - 1966 - My Heart Skips a Beat\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/UkNsqdGm0wo?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>This \u201cHookup Culture\u201d that we live in is killing romance. It seems the days of being taken on a date and taking it slow are being taken over by the need to get drunk and \u201cget some.\u201d Am I the only one that misses the excitement of getting asked on a date? Taking hours to get ready and trying on almost every outfit in your closet only to end up in the first outfit you tried because you just had to be sure you liked that one the best? Brad Paisley seemed to be all for it. In his song \u201cWaitin On a Woman,\u201d Paisely\u2019s whole message is about how when you love your woman she is worth waiting on. \u201cHoney, take your time, \u2018cause I don\u2019t mind waitin\u2019 on a woman.\u201d I mean come on is that not every girls\u2019 dream guy? He seems to understand the bigger picture that it is worth the wait in finding your dream girl.<\/p>\n<p><iframe title=\"Brad Paisley - Waitin&#039; On A Woman (Official Video)\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/M-C-IbkuNWs?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Another song that glamorizes the idea of romance is Elvis Presley\u2019s \u201cLove Me Tender.\u201d And with a sexy guy like Elvis singing, of course every girls heart skips a beat. This song offers a shimmer of hope for a relationship. \u201cLove me tender, love me sweet, never let me go, you have my life complete, and I love you so.\u201d SWOON. I would pay big bucks to hear any guy say that in real life. Elvis was a legend in his day. My grandmother still talks about him all the time and how he was such a heartthrob. We need more heartthrobs in our generation to start producing music like Elvis.<\/p>\n<p><iframe title=\"Elvis Presley - Love Me Tender (1956)\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/093GjYcDg-4?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Someone that I personally was not as familiar with but still think deserves to be included with this group of classic country love songs would be Michael Peterson. His song \u201cFrom Here to Eternity\u201d captures his message of a long-term relationship. \u201cFrom here to eternity, I\u2019m asking you to stay with me, now and forever I guarantee, I\u2019ll always stay by your side.\u201d So stinkin\u2019 cute. This song was #1 on the charts when it came out, so country fans of generations before of appreciated this song and its message based off of its success.<\/p>\n<p><iframe title=\"Michael Peterson - From Here To Eternity\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/RPQiUlSZghg?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>I am not at all saying that I think relationships should be a literal fairy tale. I do think, though, that with the direction out culture is headed, we need to restore the idea of romance and love as key elements to a relationship. The solution might be to listen to more songs like these in order to restore that passion for romance.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Recently the element of romance in a relationship has fallen under attack. Now, with apps like bumble and tinder, a potential hookup is a mere finger-swipe away. The college setting is probably the worst with its \u201chookup\u201d culture. 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